Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process. The reasons for grief are many, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of health, or the letting go of a long-held dream. Dealing with a significant loss can be one of the most difficult times in a person's life. College students can experience many losses, from the death of a loved one to the loss of a significant relationship. Other losses can occur as students experience change.
Symptoms of Grief and Loss
denial, shock, numbness
emotional release, such as crying
reactive depression which includes loneliness, isolation, feeling hopeless
panic, feeling overwhelmed, confused and fearful
remorse and regret
physical ailments such as headaches, colds, nausea, and hypertension often increase
Coping with Grief
Each one of us has our own way of coping with painful experiences. The list below may help you generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief.
Talk to family or friends
Read poetry or books
Engage in social interactions
Eat healthy, good foods
Seek spiritual support
Take time to relax
Join a support group
Listen to music
Be patient with yourself
Give yourself permission to feel grief
Helping Others with Grief and Loss
Take some kind of action - a phone call, a card, a hug, attend the funeral - offer specific help.
Be available - allow them to talk without being judgmental.
Listen well - avoid telling them what to do or feel or using clichés such as "You have to move on," "it's really the best thing."
Be patient - grievers have to talk to heal and many times, it is easy to be impatient.
Encourage self -care.
Accept your own limitations – link people to professional assistance if needed.
Counseling Center (410) 704-2512
There are many treatment options available on and off campus. An intake evaluation at the Counseling Center can help determine what type of services will best help you.
Counseling for grief & loss can help by:
Assisting you in understanding and working through your reactions to your loss.
Enhancing your ability to cope with having lost someone significant in your life.
Maximizing your resilience in the face of longer-term or complicated grief.
The Center offers a variety of services for students who are grieving, including:
individual, couples, and group counseling
the Grief & Loss Workshop Series/Support Group
Towson University Campus Ministries Make link…( http://www.towson.edu/campusministries/rscc.asp)
Wendt Center For Loss and Healing (individual, family counseling; support groups; free weekend camp for grieving children; HOPES Program for individuals, families, and communities coping with homicide-related deaths) ~ Washington, DC
http://www.coping-with-loss-and-grief.com: This is the website of Dr. Ursula Weide (DC/VA area psychologist), who, moved by the traumatic grief she experienced following the sudden death of her husband, has developed a specialization in complicated grief, bereavement, and trauma therapy. It includes comprehensive resources, including free videos and articles and a telephone support network.
www.goodgriefcenter.com: This is a comprehensive bereavement resource that promotes grief education, awareness. Referrals to support groups are also provided.
www.grief.net: The site of the Grief Recovery Institute, the action program for moving beyond loss. This site is especially helpful for assisting others who are coping with loss.
www.griefnet.org: An Internet community comprised of people coping with grief, death, and major loss. It offers on-line support groups.
www.griefshare.org: A site that helps you to find local support groups and provides some online support in the form of videos.
www.healingthespirit.org: A site that centers on families of organ and tissue donors, but that also is a general grief and loss resource.
www.holdthedoor.com: A site originated by individuals who lost family members suddenly, it provides a comprehensive workbook on living with and growing from experiences of loss and adversity.
www.studentsofamf.org: The Students of Ailing Mothers and Fathers is an organization dedicated to supporting college students dealing with illness and death.
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Dearly Loved: Dealing with the Death of a Parent (13 minutes): In this documentary, three young adults of different cultural discuss the death of a parent. Each person is at a different part of the grieving process.
A Family Disrupted: Dealing with the Death of a Sibling (22 minutes): Three individuals share their experiences of how they and their loved ones have grieved and mourned. They particularly emphasize dealing with friends and family members whose grieving and mourning differ from their own.
Grief in America (57 minutes): Seven people from diverse cultural backgrounds discuss their grief and mourning process, integrating ethnic customs for coping with their losses. As well, experts on grieving and mourning discuss coping strategies.
Phantom Limb (28 minutes): Concerns the death of the filmmaker's seven-year-old brother decades ago. The film is loosely structured according to stages of grief and emphasizes a philosophical view of death.