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The beginning of a student’s college career can be a stressful experience for parents, especially if your son or daughter hasn't lived away from home before. During this important time of transition for the family, many parents put their own feelings and reactions on hold while helping their student prepare for college life. Attending to your own emotional needs as well as your student’s, however, will go a long way toward helping everyone feel comfortable with the challenges that going to college presents.
Most parents report the experience of sending a son or daughter to college as one filled with anticipation, anxiety, confusion, and hope. By opening day of the first year of college, many changes have already begun to happen. The student becomes more independent, gains competence in new areas, and learns to develop healthy peer relationships. The college years are a time when students continue to mature and learn how to manage themselves and life in general. What does that mean for you as a parent? We have collected some common messages you might hear from your child during their transition into adulthood.
Of course, you are still a parent to your almost-adult, and he or she does still need your support and guidance during the college years. There are a number of ways you can express your caring and enhance your student's experience at TU.
The Counseling Center exists to assist students in mastering the many challenges of young adulthood, including coping with many different problems and achieving success and fulfillment in life -- in personal as well as academic terms. Find out how counseling might be helpful to your near-adult college student, whether or not he or she has previously sought mental health help.
Recognize that feelings of ambivalence about your student's leaving home are normal. For most families, this step can seem like a dramatic separation of parent and student (although it is usually the separation of adult from almost-adult). It is normal, too, to look forward to the relative peace and quiet of having your active older adolescent out of the house, having the place to yourself, or being able to spend time with your younger student! Dealing well with the transition you are facing as a parent will help the whole family to cope well with the changes. Take some time to learn more about The Transition Year.
We hope these ideas and suggestions will be helpful to you in dealing with some of the difficulties parents experience when their student goes to college. The first year at a new school is a tremendously exciting time, both for students and their families. We hope and trust that you and your student will have a rewarding year!
Sections of this page and the links to related documents are adapted from similar pages posted by the Loyola University of Maryland, University of Texas, and the University of Delaware.