Sending your student to an institution of higher education is as much of a transition for parents as it is for students. The relationship you have with your son or daughter will undoubtedly change. Students are expected to make decisions on their own, to learn to resolve conflict independently, and to take responsibility for their actions. At the same time they covet your love, respect your opinion, and generally operate on the values you instilled in them. So what should you do when your student becomes involved in the campus conduct system?
The following section provides some recommendations for parents when they discover that their student is involved in the campus conduct process.
While we recognize that your goal is to provide support for your student, we ask that you provide support unconditionally, but not blindly. Understand that there is a process in place to hear all information regarding the incident in question and encourage your student to prepare for the process.
When your student receives paperwork regarding conduct procedures and has questions, direct them to contact the Office of Student Conduct & Civility Education for information. Staff members are not permitted to give specifics to parents and will most likely recommend to you that the student call. This also empowers the student to solve the issues and concerns on their own.
Practice the “24 Hour Rule.” You may receive a phone call or email because your student is upset about facing conduct charges. You may be tempted to try to immediately fix the problem for your student, but try to allow 24 hours to inform, guide, teach, observe, and/or educate (if necessary). The lessons that students learn through participation in the conduct process must be experienced in order to have the desired educational outcome.
The staff in Towson University’s Office of Student Conduct and Civility Education takes their responsibilities as educators very seriously and do their best to provide a fair and unbiased system for all students. While these professionals understand that involvement in the conduct process may be difficult for students, they do their best to provide them support to effectively handle the situations in which they find themselves.