Loss is an inevitable part of life, and grief is a natural part of the healing process.
The reasons for grief are many: the loss of a loved one, the loss of health, the end
of a relationship, or the letting go of a long-held dream.
College students can experience many losses, from the death of a loved one to the
loss of a significant relationship. Other losses can occur as students experience
change in both their personal and professional life.
Information on Grief & Loss
Symptoms of Grief & Loss
Denial, shock, numbness
Emotional release, such as crying
Reactive depression which includes loneliness, isolation, feeling hopeless
Panic, feeling overwhelmed, confused and fearful
Remorse and regret
Physical ailments such as headaches, colds, nausea, and hypertension often increase
Coping With Grief
Each one of us has our own way of coping with painful experiences. The list below
may help you generate ideas about how to manage your feelings of grief.
Talk to family or friends
Read poetry or books
Engage in social interactions
Eat healthy, good foods
Seek spiritual support
Take time to relax
Join a support group
Listen to music
Be patient with yourself
Give yourself permission to feel grief
Helping Others With Grief & Loss
Take some kind of action - a phone call, a card, a hug, attend the funeral - offer
Be available - allow them to talk without being judgmental
Listen well - avoid telling them what to do or feel or using clichés such as "You
have to move on,"or "it's really the best thing"
Be patient - grievers have to talk to heal and many times, it is easy to be impatient
Encourage self -care
Accept your own limitations – link people to professional assistance if needed
Counseling Center (410) 704-2512 There are many treatment options available on and off campus. An intake evaluation
at the Counseling Center can help determine what type of services will best help you.
Counseling for grief & loss can help by:
Assisting you in understanding and working through your reactions to your loss.
Enhancing your ability to cope with having lost someone significant in your life.
Maximizing your resilience in the face of longer-term or complicated grief.
Wendt Center For Loss and Healing: Individual, family counseling; support groups; free weekend camp for grieving children;
HOPES Program for individuals, families, and communities coping with homicide-related
deaths) ~ Washington, DC (202) 624-0010
www.centerforloss.com: The site features a thorough collection of articles and book excerpts focused on
www.studentsofamf.org: The Students of Ailing Mothers and Fathers is an organization dedicated to supporting
college students dealing with illness and death.
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Viorst, J. (1986). Necessary losses: The loves, illusions, dependencies, and impossible expectations
that all of us have to give up in order to grow.
Dearly Loved: Dealing with the Death of a Parent (13 minutes): In this documentary, three young adults of different cultural discuss
the death of a parent. Each person is at a different part of the grieving process.
A Family Disrupted: Dealing with the Death of a Sibling (22 minutes): Three individuals share their experiences of how they and their loved
ones have grieved and mourned. They particularly emphasize dealing with friends and
family members whose grieving and mourning differ from their own.
Grief in America (57 minutes): Seven people from diverse cultural backgrounds discuss their grief
and mourning process, integrating ethnic customs for coping with their losses. As
well, experts on grieving and mourning discuss coping strategies.
Phantom Limb (28 minutes): Concerns the death of the filmmaker's seven-year-old brother decades
ago. The film is loosely structured according to stages of grief and emphasizes a
philosophical view of death.
Uncoupled: Dealing with the Death of a Spouse (24 minutes) Four grieving spouses explore helpful and unhelpful coping mechanisms
following their loss.